Think your child isn’t communicating? 10 signs that they actually are
Think your child isn’t talking? They might be saying more than you think.
You’ve been listening for words — maybe even just one — and wondering if something’s wrong. But before words come, communication is already happening in all kinds of powerful ways.
In fact, most toddlers go through a stage where they’re understood before they speak! They point, gesture, grunt, glance, and lead you by the hand. These aren’t “just behaviors”. They’re meaningful, important ways your child is already connecting with you.
Let’s take a closer look at what communication might look like before speech shows up and how you can respond in a way that supports language growth.
Here are 10 ways your child might be communicating (without words):
Pointing to show you what they want
Whether it’s a snack, a toy, or a light switch, pointing is a powerful skill! It shows your child knows how to get your attention and share what’s on their mind.
Reaching or leading you by the hand
If your child grabs your hand and walks you over to something—that’s communication! They’re saying, “Come see this” or “I need your help”.
Looking at you, then back at an object
This is called joint attention and it’s a big milestone. It shows they’re trying to share something with you — not just grab it, but include you in their experience.
Using gestures like waving, reaching, or baby signs
Waving, shaking their head no, clapping, or u sing simple signs like “more” or “all done” —these are early words, just without speech.
Tip: Want to introduce simple signs? Try pairing signs with real-life routines. For example, sign “more” while offering snack bites or puzzle pieces, or “all done” when cleaning up.
Making sounds or facial expressions
Grunts, squeals or expressive faces all have meaning. These early sounds help lay the foundation for spoken language.
Responding to you — even nonverbally
If they look at you when you say their name, turn toward a sound, or follow a point, they’re showing understanding. This is a huge step in language development.
Imitating your actions or sounds
Copying your movements or vocalizations is how toddlers learn. If they clap because you clap or make a funny noise back, that’s a social win!
Making choices
Even if they don’t say “yes” or “no”, your child might make choices by pushing away what they don’t want or reaching excitedly for what they do.
Using play to send a message
Pretend play, turn taking, or offering you a toy is communication. They’re learning how to share attention, take turns, and connect.
Pausing to see how you respond
That little pause after they drop their spoon—they’re looking to see if you noticed! That’s social communication. They’re learning cause and effect and how to invite your attention.
the power of recognizing early communication
Once you start noticing these subtle cues, two things happen:
You feel more connected to your child.
You begin to see what they’re trying to tell you—and that creates meaningful back and forth moments, even without words.
You can respond in ways that help them grow.
By tuning in and responding to your child’s signals, you’re reinforcing the idea that communication works, which encourages them to keep trying new ways to express themselves.
It’s not about waiting for words-it’s about your child where they are and supporting the foundation for language growth.
how you can help!
You don’t have to “wait for words” to start supporting speech and language. You can:
Respond to what they’re doing now
Expand with short phrases (“Oh! You want more apples!)
Create space for your child to lead in routines and play
These moments, even without speech, are where language starts to grow!
Final Thoughts: your child is trying to connect!
If your child isn’t using words yet, it doesn’t mean they aren’t communicating. You’re not behind. You’re not alone. And the fact that you’re reading this shows just how much you care!
Your child is already reaching out in their own way and your job is to notice, respond, and support that growth.
Curious about whether your child’s communication is on track? Reach out for a free discovery call-we’ll talk you through what you’re seeing and explore next steps together!
